I was recently listening to a 2011 podcast interview with Marc "animal" MacYoung from the website http://www.martial-secrets.com. I hadn't heard of him before but after the interview I'm interested in reading his books. He's worked with YMAA author Rory Miller who has written at length about the difference between real world violence and martial arts training.
It's a good listen and might even raise a few questions about your training.
Check out the interview here: http://www.martial-secrets.com/2011/08/14/marc-animal-mcyoung-–-animal-list-bbq-interviews-2011/
And the website he and Rory maintain together: http://conflictcommunications.com
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